2021.09.16 17:26 thispickleisntgreen If we require solar on new homes, it pays off really fast - "solar systems on new-builds in California can offer an internal rate of return (IRR) of 40% per year on their investment cost, rather than 20% IRR offered by retrofitted systems"
2021.09.16 17:26 Outgrow_Infidelity Four Common Reactions When Kids Confront their Parents About their Cheating Behavior AND Ideas on How to Handle Them
DO NOT DISTURB: PARENT INFIDELITY IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS Your parent may well not want to discuss this topic with you. Many people believe that an affair is an issue for the couple alone, and is no one else’s business. Parents are often understandably embarrassed to discuss their infidelity and their sexual lives with their children.
How to Handle it
Remind your parents that infidelity effects the entire family, not just the couple. Explain why you need to have the conversation. It is not likely that knowing the physical or sexual details of the affair will help you feel any better, and your parent may be more willing to open up if they know that you are not asking them to share this information. As a child (of any age), what you need to know is how the parent’s infidelity will effect you.
THE TOP DOWN APPROACH In some families, parents take an authoritarian stance, dictating the ‘solution’ for the entire family. In this case, the topic of the affair may not be taboo, but only certain responses are allowed. For example, the cheating parent must be forgiven quickly so that the family can move on.
This may work for some families, particularly if examining the affair will cause a loss of financial or physical stability. For others, this will hamper any real coping, leaving feelings bottled up, rather than worked through.
How to handle it
If you are financially or physically dependent on your parents, it may be difficult to stand up to their solution. Begin with acknowledging to yourself that their way is not right for you, and explore why. It may be, for example, that you are still afraid that your dad will abandon the family one day, if he received forgiveness before he took any genuine ownership for his cheating behavior. Once you understand your own feelings, you will be better able to articulate them to your parents. Remember that as an adult, you no longer need to follow your parents rules about taboo topics or knee-jerk forgiveness.
BE MY CONFIDANT Another common reaction is for your parent to ask you to take their side. This request can take several different forms. For example, the cheating parent may ask you to keep their secret. Or, the victimized parent might ask you to spy for them. Either parent might put you in the middle of an argument or implore your support or sympathy.
How to handle it.
Just say no. Research shows, repeatedly, that sticking kids in the middle of their parents leads to unhappy kids and poor parent-child relationships into adulthood. Not to mention that it does not help save the parents’ relationship. Staying out of the middle will require you to clearly describe to your parents what you will and will not do for them. It may also mean that you need to reinforce these boundaries a few times before your parents respect them.
LIAR, LIAR Sometimes, parents lie about an affair in order to save face with their children and families. Even when they are confronted by a child who has concrete evidence of the parent infidelity. Worse, sometimes the parent will accuse the child of lying about their knowledge of the affair.
How to handle it
This is the toughest of the bunch, and indicates a real unwillingness for honest conversation. Do not lose faith in yourself and what you know to be true. Understand that your parents could have motives for lying that they believe are in your best interest. For example, keeping the family together, or protecting you from painful information. Which is not to say that they should be lying to you.
Research has shown that how a family discusses infidelity is as important as the act of infidelity itself. Congratulate yourself for considering beginning this difficult conversation, even if your parents are not on board. In the long run, your willingness to seek the truth will help you recover from the pain that your parents’ infidelity may cause.
Here is the research that I used for this post, and for much of what I write. :)
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2021.09.16 17:26 NewNanny30 Worth Changing Jobs?
So I just started nannying for a family a couple weeks ago. While the parents are super nice and the kids are well behaved, there’s a couple issues. 1, due to road construction it now takes me over 30 mins to get to their house every day. 2, I pretty much cannot ask for time off, they said the only time when I can get off is Christmas. 3, my school schedule changes after Christmas and I might not get the schedule they need. Last week they got sick and didn’t need me and I found a one week job that I absolutely loved. The mom told me if I ever needed a job, they would be willing to work out days for me. They’re super flexible and live a ton closer. However, they pay less. I also hate to leave the other people without a nanny. Is switching jobs even worth considering?
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2021.09.16 17:26 comfy_bed Shit yourself
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2021.09.16 17:26 andreaippo P6 Pro to feature LPTO variable refresh rate display - what about the non-Pro?
As per title.
I get that the Pro gets a bigger battery, the telephoto, the curved edge (which I don't like), but come on, what about people with small hands that are looking forward to get the regular model?
Don't we deserve some variable refresh rate as well? 😟
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2021.09.16 17:26 KlasicNick Look at some HIDDEN Chests Locations on Amrine Excavation
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2021.09.16 17:26 Thecrayonbandit Gabby Petito case: Full Utah bodycam video
2021.09.16 17:26 ManlyFlavour Can sounds waves be used to “cut a hole” in the air for drag reduction?
When watching race cars go around a circuit, you’ll see one car closely follow the other since there is a bit of an air pocket that will allow the driver to essentially slingshot themselves beyond the car in front.
So that got me thinking… can sound waves be used to do the same thing? If for example, there is significant drag on a rocket being launched into outer space, can sound be used to “punch a hole” in the air to make exiting the atmosphere a lot easier / require less force / less energy?
Furthermore, the sound waves could be powered by the heat released at launch, so that the system is reusing energy efficiently.
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2021.09.16 17:26 TheSquadfather Any way to subscribe to MF outside of the Apple App Store?
As the title says, I am trying to subscribe to Macro Factor, but if I do so through the App Store, it will be charged to the credit card associated with my family’s shared iCloud account (only one card can be attached to an iCloud account). Is there a way I can subscribe outside of the App Store?
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2021.09.16 17:26 TanPlayZFN We you supposed to talk on Chinese???
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2021.09.16 17:26 K0rOwJew Schönste Stadt Deutschlands?
Was ist eurer Meinung nach die schönste Stadt Deutschlands? Die Bewertungsmaßstäbe legt ihr selber fest (z.B. schöne Altstadt, schönes Umland, tolles Lebensgefühl,...).
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2021.09.16 17:26 sneedsformerlychucks Wikipedia's timeline of the far future predicts that plate tectonics will stop within about 1.1 billion years. For reference, tectonic processes have been taking place for 3.3 to 3.5 billion years. This will coincide with the evaporation of the oceans and the extinction of all complex life.
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